Dec. 13, 2011
Welcome to the first edition of “The Party’s Over.” What’s this all about ? Well, see if you can relate to this, and then we’ll talk !
You meet a guy and every nerve in your body starts to dance. You begin talking and it all just seems to click. You have so many things in common and you’re so comfortable with him. The dating starts, or maybe you are both perfectly happy just staying alone at home together. But the spark is turning to a flame, and before you know it, you’re seriously involved. You begin to believe that this could be “the one.” Your heart flutters when you hear his voice, and you begin daydreaming about the endless possibilities. Love is in full bloom.
The courtship is a haze of happy, carefree days and romantic nights. You can’t stop thinking about the object of your affection, and every moment away from Mr. Right is filled with the excitement of anticipation. When the two of you are together, you feel complete, and suddenly the world has become a wonderful, friendly place.
Time drifts by, and you begin to notice a few things about your new partner that aren’t exactly encouraging. There may even be times when you’re not quite sure about your original impression. Perhaps some things happen that are pretty disappointing, and you begin to question yourself about the relationship. Your mind is troubled by nagging doubts that you can not dismiss.
Eventually, it becomes clear that “Mr. Right” has become anything but that. The relationship has soured, and both parties are painfully aware that their days together are numbered.
The party’s over.
But the story doesn’t always end there. Some women can’t let go or say goodbye when things go wrong. That’s the reason for this discussion.
Too many members of the female population in America
In an effort to understand the nature of the disease we call codependency, we suggest that our readers explore the work of New York Times best-selling author and motivational speaker John Bradshaw: http://www.johnbradshaw.com/
Bradshaw explains the reasons that certain individuals become codependent or addicted to a person or relationship. He also offers excellent advice and available resources as a guide for healing and restoration.
Robert Ringer wrote a wonderful book titled, “Looking Out For Number One,” which we highly recommend. In his text he states that, “The best way to help the poor is by not becoming one of them.” It is our belief that women can offer encouragement by contributing practical ideas or sharing the experience of how they found their way out of a bad situation. The ultimate goal is to leave the land of victim mentality and move into a place of power and control. The best way to help each other escape from the suffering is “…by not becoming one of them.”
It is our hope that women will come together in the spirit of helpfulness so that the healing waters of a supportive assembly will produce a harvest of health and hope for a brighter future.
We invite all comments. Please feel free to offer your opinion, (but not advice) to other contributors. Each person must discover her own path.
The purpose of this blog is to discuss the ideas and strategies that lead to freedom. It is also high time for a serious exchange between women who need encouragement and support. We welcome comments that are amusing, witty, or entertaining, but we also ask that you keep in mind the serious nature of our subject.
In order to serve the ultimate goal of this blog, we ask that you respect the following guidelines:
- Do not use obscene language. NO PROFANITY, PLEASE !
- Please keep all comments focused on the topic we are discussing.
- Please do not describe specific details of abuse or tragic events.
For example, it is okay to say that you are living with a man who is
violent or a partner who has an addiction problem, but we prefer to avoid
unnecessary unpleasantness.
- This is not a forum for airing complaints or trashing the members of the
entire male population. Our primary concern is helping women make healthier
choices in their search for a life partner.
- The authors of this blog can not give legal or personal advice. We will, however, respond with information or opinions that will provide encouragement and inspiration.
This site will feature regular posting of articles and suggested resources which we believe will be helpful to our readers.
Stay safe and well. Hope to hear from you soon !
“The Party’s Over” blog team.
